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Experiment :: 30 days of my “Social absence”

It may sound crazy or silly, but yes it happened to me.

I was “connected” too much and it started suffocating me with overwhelming flow of incoming messages.

In the age of facebook, whatsapp, hipchat, snapchat, slack, linkedin and google+, its easy to grow your online circles , start liking groups of your interest, subscribe to the endless RSS feeds of choice and bury yourself with tons of data.  I never thought social networking can be so suffocating.  And you know what? I am not a “power user” of these networks. Just a normal guy with usual circles and casual interactions.. And if I experienced such a flood of data, I can image what happens to people with thousands of friends and hundreds of groups.. My phone was vibrating almost all the time 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

So I thought I should take a break.

I deleted all my social network accounts and went into online-oblivion.. for 30 days.

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And not surprisingly, not many noticed my absence.  As I said, I am not a power user. Few might have frowned at seeing me go, but you know people dropping out accidentally is so common so they just ignored.  One friend has gone to an extent to drag me into one group so badly that he added another ‘balu’ in his contacts ( I don’t blame him, no one remembers phone numbers any more).

Thats all. Nothing much. That PROVED one thing very clearly.

My absence doesn’t really matter much.

All that constant flow of incoming messages that gave me an immense sense of belonging, all the phone vibrations that demanded my attention and gave me a false feeling of importance, all that hype around an illusory possessiveness that cared so much to notify me of so many happenings… all that everything washed off… in 30 days.

Now, I came back and activated all my accounts silently. I now know the core circles where I actually belong. I will see how many people will actually read this and care to add me back to the groups because my number is now active.  Lets just wait and see :):p

And hey, what happened in these 30 days? what did I do productively in the absence of a constant stream of connectivity? Thats suspense for now .. and thats the concept of my next post 🙂

Thanks for reading. I encourage you to do the same experiment and realize your true connections and also use that time to realize and prove your true potential, because you won’t have as many distractions.

Happy experimenting.

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why men love their cars than women?

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Ahem! … I finally figured out why Men like their cars more than Women..

  • Because a car carefully ‘listens’ to the driver, simply follow his command actions without a hesitation;
  • Tries to comfort him all the time with only the “possible/available” resources;
  • He can lower the windows anytime for fresh air to stroke his hair affectionately and solace him “silently”;
  • He can click a button any time to know where his car is;
  • He can drink a beer while still sitting inside the car;
  • … and many more.. Please add if you have any points.

WARNING: The above logic doesn’t apply to your ladylove. In fact, Love is always beyond logic, mortals!

Thanks for reading.

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great words from a great cook

Listening to the famous Chef Thomas Keller yesterday in the campus was so inspiring. Wanna know what lead him from a dishwasher to SEVEN grand Michelin Stars? #goosebumps

organization; efficiency; critical feedback; repetition; rituals; team work;

It was a certain feast for me when he explained each of these that gives me little more clarity in grasping where men fail whatever their field of work is, how teams flounder however ambitious their goals are, and in fact why success dates only a few.

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3 D’s that made me remain firm

Desire, Determination & DrudgeryI personally devised, tested, implemented, succeeded & started suggesting these 3 D’s. Let me explain:

DESIRE: What is this? OR if I know what it is then what should I desire?

DETERMINATION: If what I desire is clear, how should I get it? how at the earliest?

DRUDGERY: Why should I make myself a slave of chasing my own Destiny? Is it the fourth ‘D’ that exists between my present & my future?

I don’t know how people devise their career but I am clear on my own career path and I have kept only these 3 things in my mind. I first focussed on seeing myself as an employee in Yahoo. Very few people know that the 20 months that followed were so intense and consuming that I almost forgot the external world. Having clarity on my own SWOT that I only know what extra bite I have taken to reach where I am now. One may find my term ‘drudgery’ a little confusing but I substantiate it very strongly that until I became the slave of my own desires and unless I forgot everything else, that I couldn’t have gotten the confidence to face that one final interview on 8th August, 2007.

And now, I am a happy part of the Yahoo family. And do you think I am sleeping peacefully, relishing the weekends…..?

No, I want to become a ‘PARANOID’ now. You will soon see me so.

🙂 All the best for both of us.

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